Still not Progressing!!

Oh no! You are tired again! Feelin’ lazy? Got no motivation to work?
Well, how about a cup of coffee and a chocolate bar? Still no progress? 
You can’t relax? Get a drink, have a smoke, or go check the fridge — there should be something to cheer you up in there!
Those are some easy tips everyone loves referring to.
Yet applying them to real life doesn’t get you anywhere — you end up feeling like a squeezed lemon, braindead, and dog-tired. You are just lying on the couch, staring blankly at the TV screen. Exhausted. Dead tired. But you are not alone. Millions of people have exactly the same experience daily. A whole nation of tired people.
So what now? Are we doomed?
No, we aren’t. Personal energy management is here to help us. It’s not a fast solution, but it works. And this article will show you how.
We have everything
A modern human being has it all: a PC and the Internet to write endless reports anywhere in the world. An automobile to make it to and from work faster. An annual pass to a gym and a treadmill at home to keep fit. A spouse, kids, an apartment, and a summer house to build perfect family happiness. We have everything.
We know everything
Don’t we? For instance, it’s a fact that we all should do morning exercise. Watch less TV and read more. Smile at our children and get our spouses presents for no reason at all, just to make them happy. It’s all common knowledge, right?
But we do nothing!
I can hear you denying this. But you shouldn’t. Try recalling all of your numerous attempts to change: buying new running shoes, waking up at 6 a.m., taking an ice-cold shower, and heading to a gym. Sure enough, you’ll be giving this new lifestyle up in 2-5 days to start over in a year or so. That’s not a question of willpower. Willpower tends to run out. Then what IS the problem?
We lack energy
What kind of energy? Well, when your car runs out of gas, you buy some more and pour it in. So does that mean that you need to swallow something to get energy? Not really. Personal energy management has nothing to do with calories. But it has to do with 4 types of energy.
Physical energy
A detailed plan, time management, bonuses, other people’s expectations — these are some factors that may motivate you well enough. But do you really care about those things when it has been 48 hours since you last slept? Or if you are drunk as a skunk? Or if you have a terrible headache?
Yes, I’m exaggerating. And I do so to show you that if you lack physical energy nothing else matters. You are doomed to failure.
How to restore your physical energy?
* Exercise. Do the sports you love. For instance, I play football and walk a lot..
* Get no less than 7 hours of sleep. I also suggest you take up napping — it will make you feel refreshed.
* Eat healthy meals. Listen to your bodу. Remove the junk food and add healthier options such as fruit instead of cookies and chips.
I bet you’re saying: ’Thanks, Captain Obvious!’ Yep, this stuff is as clear as day. Or did you expect me to be sharing trigonometric equations with you?
2. Emotional energy:
Even if your physical energy is boosted, you need to make sure not to screw up here. You might have noticed that when you are angry or frustrated those feelings make it harder to concentrate on your work — constant troublesome thoughts never helped anyone to get a project done.
And vice versa: if you get positive feedback at work, it’ll brighten up your day and motivate you to work harder.
Feelings of content, challenges, adventures, new opportunities — these are the factors that boost our emotional energy, while anger, offense, and annoyance suck the energy out.
3. Intellectual energy
That’s your creativity, time management, and plan-making skills and the ability to concentrate. If you lack intellectual energy it becomes much harder for you to work.
Try reading books, playing music, drawing, doodling, and meditating instead of Facebooking, gaming, and Netflixing.
4. Spiritual energy
What’s the meaning of your life? Why do you work at this company? Where will your path lead to? Some people spend their lives running around like headless chickens, never even attempting to answer these questions.
This approach will help you survive, but it certainly won’t help you make great things happen.
A way to restore it: think bigger, work for charity, and commit to a good cause.
The pulse of life
This is one of the key concepts of energy management. It’s important to alternate work and leisure: work — rest — work — rest.
Why do problems appear? Because you get carried away and forget to rest.
Always find time for work/leisure alternation:
* During the day (for instance, try the Pomodoro technique).
* Within 24 hours (nocturnal sleep, napping).
* Within a week (weekend).
* Over the course of the year (vacation).
Don’t be too harsh on yourself! All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
You can build up your ’energy muscles’
To build up rippling muscles you’ll need to train hard and to have a proper rest. Without proper rehabilitation your muscles wouldn’t be able to straighten and grow.
The same is true for our ’energy muscles.’ If you alternate work and rehabilitation, gently increasing the workload at the same time, your muscles will start growing.
We have all met those optimistic and goal-oriented people who can energize everyone else and, at the same time, be productive. Who are those people? How did they accomplish this?
Those are the people who exercise their ’energy muscles’!
What’s next?
That’s not a tricky part any longer. Stop whining and groaning.
You are a person with endless opportunities. You know that you lack energy and you know how to get it.
So go get it! Dare to be!

IF YOU ARE FEELING SAD...

Sometimes we are not at the best of our spirits... Sometimes notice seem to entice or bring in joy... Sometimes everything u get ur hands on leaves you in fatigue... If you are feeling sad, you are not in a 'low vibration'. You are not sick or broken or unenlightened or far from healing. You are not 'trapped in your ego' or stuck in the 'separate self'. You are not being negative, and you don't need to be fixed, and sadness is not a mistake, because it's life moving in you, and life can't be a mistake, ever.

You are just feeling sad, that's all.

It's a feeling state playing out on the vibrantly alive movie screen of presence, that's all.

It's not a problem that requires a solution or a band-aid. It's a sacred and precious part of you longing for love, acceptance, embrace, rest.

You've been blessed by sadness today; you've been chosen as her home; don't run away from such a truly precious gift... It's fine to be sad.. It's fine to sulk... But don't stay there for long :)...

Self Worth!!!

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

It's better to say a sorry than be sorry!!

Today there was a small tiff between my him and me. But this had made the air so thick and heavy at that you could cut it with a knife. The cold war was spreading too much negativity around me and I cud sense he was restless just like me ! In such situations, I tend to run to the expert "The Me". "What is more important to me right now? Is it to prove my point right means the ultimate to me, or is it the person standing in front of me?" I ask. I get an honest reply....   Yes, it's not very easy to convince myself every time that it was I who greased the wheels for him being indignant towards me. I hold back those tears as I look at him frantically to be hugged. I feel betrayed, when he disregards to come back and talk. But when I know that he too treasures this relationship, then I should acquiesce to it!
Now, what if I wrangled? Our lives would still go forth. He would still get ready to office and leave at the same time. But.... would it be the same? I would miss hugging him talking every small thing that hpnd from morn to eve. I miss his aura around me, no laughter and no fun! All these at the cost of what? I mean, is it worth it?  Understanding what's cardinal and to act accordingly is what it takes.  So I dnt mind doing anything to mend what went wrong and don't want to validate who is right and who's wrong and hence.went up to him and said "sorry!"  and THAT resolved the issue, I wish it did.
A person who is clear about his priorities in life, a person who adores his relationship more than his ego! Trust me, it takes a lot of guts to apologize for the mistake you didn't do!  When our ego takes a back seat, we can contrive to a lot of enjoyable and memorable moments in life. Life is a compilation of many such lovely moments. It is these moments which we flash on and that brings a smile on our old wrinkled face tomorrow. And that's why I feel... "It's better to say a sorry than be sorry!!" - food for thought!

Contentfull

Life has many turns leading to miracles and inspiring to live a contentful life... it lies in how one revives it.
For years my wife Keri and I struggled. Looking back, I’m not exactly sure what initially drew us together, but our personalities didn’t quite match up. And the longer we were married the more extreme the differences seemed. Encountering «fame and fortune it didn’t make our marriage any easier. In fact, it exacerbated our problems. The tension between us got so bad that going out on book tour became a relief, though it seems we always paid for it on re-entry. Our fighting became so constant that it was difficult to even imagine a peaceful relationship. We became perpetually defensive, building emotional fortresses around our hearts. We were on the edge of divorce and more than once we discussed it.
I was on book tour when things came to a head. We had just had another big fight on the phone and Keri had hung up on me. I was alone and lonely, frustrated and angry. I had reached my limit. That’s when I turned to God. Or turned on God. I don’t know if you could call it prayer—maybe shouting at God isn’t prayer, maybe it is—but whatever I was engaged in I’ll never forget it. I was standing in the shower & yelling at God that marriage was wrong and I couldn’t do it anymore. As much as I hated the idea of divorce, the pain of being together was just too much. I was also confused. I couldn’t figure out why marriage with Keri was so hard. Deep down I knew that Keri was a good person. And I was a good person. So why couldn’t we get along? Why had I married someone so different than me? Why wouldn’t she change?
Finally, hoarse and broken, I sat down in the shower and began to cry. In the depths of my despair powerful inspiration came to me. You can’t change her, Rick. You can only change yourself. At that moment I began to pray. If I can’t change her, God, then change me. I prayed late into the night. I prayed the next day on the flight home. I prayed as I walked in the door to a cold wife who barely even acknowledged me. That night, as we lay in our bed, inches from each other yet miles apart, the inspiration came. I knew what I had to do.
The next morning I rolled over in bed next to Keri and asked, How can I make your day better?
Keri looked at me angrily. What?
How can I make your day better?
You can’t,» she said . «Why are you asking that?»
«Because I mean it,» I said. «I just want to know what I can do to make your day better 
She looked at me cynically. «You want to do something? Go clean the kitchen.»
She likely expected me to get mad. Instead I just nodded. «Okay.» I got up and cleaned the kitchen.
The next day I asked the same thing. «What can I do to make your day better?»
Her eyes narrowed. «Clean the garage.»
I took a deep breath. I already had a busy day and I knew she had made the request in spite. I was tempted to blow up at her. Instead I said, «Okay.» I got up and for the next two hours cleaned the garage. Keri wasn’t sure what to think.
The next morning came. «What can I do to make your day better?»
«Nothing!» she said. «You can’t do anything. Please stop saying that.»
«I’m sorry,» I said. «But I can’t. I made a commitment to myself. What can I do to make your day better?»
«Why are you doing this?»
«Because I care about you,» I said. «And our marriage.»
The next morning I asked again. And the next. And the next. Then, during the second week, a miracle occurred. As I asked the question Keri’s eyes welled up with tears. Then she broke down crying. When she could speak she said, «Please stop asking me that. You’re not the problem. I am. I’m hard to live with. I don’t know why you stay with me.»
I gently lifted her chin until she was looking in my eyes. «It’s because I love you,» I said. «What can I do to make your day better?»
«I should be asking you that.»
«You should,» I said. «But not now. Right now, I need to be the change. You need to know how much you mean to me.»
She put her head against my chest. «I’m sorry I’ve been so mean.»
«I love you,» I said.
«I love you,» she replied.
«What can I do to make your day better?»
She looked at me sweetly. «Can we maybe just spend some time together?»
I smiled. «I’d like that.»
I continued asking for more than a month. And things did change. The fighting stopped. Then Keri began asking, «What do you need from me? How can I be a better wife?»
The walls between us fell. We began having meaningful discussions on what we wanted from life and how we could make each other happier. No, we didn’t solve all our problems. I can’t even say that we never fought again. But the nature of our fights changed. Not only were they becoming more and more rare, they lacked the energy they’d once had. We’d deprived them of oxygen. We just didn’t have it in us to hurt each other anymore.
Keri and I have now been married for more than thirty years. I not only love my wife, I like her. I like being with her. I crave her. I need her. Many of our differences have become strengths and the others don’t really matter. We’ve learned how to take care of each other and, more importantly, we’ve gained the desire to do so.
Marriage is hard. But so is parenthood and keeping fit and writing books and everything else important and worthwhile in my life. To have a partner in life is a remarkable gift. I’ve also learned that the institution of marriage can help heal us of our most unlovable parts. And we all have unlovable parts.
Through time I’ve learned that our experience was an illustration of a much larger lesson about marriage. The question everyone in a committed relationship should ask their significant other is, «What can I do to make your life better?» Thatis love. Romance novels (and I’ve written a few) are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn’t come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in most pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person, but to truly desire their happiness—sometimes, even, at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is not to make another person a carbon copy of one’s self. It is to expand our own capabilities of tolerance and  and writing books and everything else important and worthwhile in my life. To have a partner in life is a remarkable gift. I’ve also learned that the institution of marriage can help heal us of our most unlovable parts. And we all have unlovable parts.
Through time I’ve learned that our experience was an illustration of a much larger lesson about marriage. The question everyone in a committed relationship should ask their significant other is, «What can I do to make your life better?» Thatis love. Romance novels (and I’ve written a few) are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn’t come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in most pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person, but to truly desire their happiness—sometimes, even, at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is not to make another person a carbon copy of one’s self. It is to expand our own capabilities of tolerance and caring, to actively seek another’s well being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.
I’m not saying that what happened to Keri and me will work for everyone. I’m not even claiming that all marriages should be saved. But for me, I am incredibly grateful for the inspiration that came to me that day so long ago. I’m grateful that my family is still intact and that I still have my wife, my best friend, in bed next to me when I wake in the morning. And I’m grateful that even now, decades later, every now and then, one of us will still roll over and say, «What can I do to make your day better.» Being on either side of that question is something worth waking up for.’

In you...

All I ever wanted was to be part of your heart,
And for us to be together, to never be apart.

No one else in the world can even compare,
You're perfect and so is this love that we share.

We have so much more than I ever thought we would,
I love you more than I ever thought I could.

I promise to give you all I have to give,
I'll do anything for you as long as I live.

In your eyes I see our present, our future and past,
By the way you look at me I know we will last.

I hope that one day you'll come to realize,
How perfect you are when seen through my eyes.

Sleep...

Don't let her go to sleep upset... because she will only toss n turn in frustration until sadness turns you to sleep n tear strain her pillow... you will be her first thought when she wakes up n more than anything she wishes she goes back to sleep in silence n empty darkness