The Laws of Attraction:

When you begin reading and thinking about the Law of Attraction, one of the first things that you discover is that positivity of is paramount importance. As you work to attract the thing you want—whether it’s love, abundance, career advancement or health—you need to vibrate on a positive frequency if you’re going to succeed.

There are plenty of tools you can use to enhance your personal positivity, from keeping a daily gratitude journal to creating a dream board that displays images connected to joy and well-being.

However, the truth is that it isn’t just your own positivity that matters—the vibration of others around you can also influence your likelihood of manifesting the life you desire. When you’re surrounded by positive people, your self-esteem grows and you’re in a constant feedback loop of excitement, inspiration and energy.

If, on the other hand, you have negative people around you, then they can sap your positivity and make you vibrate on a lower frequency.

So, how do you ensure that you have as many positive people around you as possible? Here are five tips for attracting them into your life.


1. Use Visualization


You’ll already be familiar with the process of using creative visualization to build detailed, lifelike images of the things you want to attract. However, once you’ve honed your visualization skills, you can also use them to do other exercises.

One technique that can help you to attract positive people involves visualizing these people coming towards you. After you’ve focused on slow, steady breathing for a few minutes, allow your mind to generate an image that represents your ability to pull other positive people towards you.

For example, you might feel a shimmering outline of an unspecific person holding their arms out towards you, and feel the love and support that resonates from this person. Alternatively, you might imagine yourself glowing with a golden light that magnetically attracts good people.

There’s no rule about what you need to visualize, as long as you feel it represents happy, nurturing individuals coming into your life. Try to repeat this visualization at least once a day.


2. Target Your Own Negativity


As the Law of Attraction states, we tend to attract more of the things that we “give out” to the universe. So, if you’re sending out negativity then it will be so much harder to attract positive people.

This negativity doesn’t have to be malicious—for example, even if you are an accepting a friendly person, if you believe that you don’t deserve positive people in your life then you’re less likely to receive them.

Ask yourself whether you have any negative beliefs or assumptions about friendships and relationships, and work to counter those in order to draw more positive people towards you. The manifestation addendum of my recent book “Origins” is a great place to start to find exercises that help you rewrite outdated, limiting beliefs.


3. Be Honest


Sometimes, we are tempted to hold onto old friendships and relationships that are no longer working for us and only drag us down. To maximize your chances of meeting positive people and making solid connections, practice regular self-reflection about your social circle.

Is anyone dragging you down? Is there someone who always criticizes you, or even laughs at you? It’s time to consider cutting ties with these sorts of people to make space for ones who will empower you and help you to reach your full potential.


4. Give Love Every Day


You can attract more positive people towards you if you’re constantly radiating positivity—even to strangers. Make a habit of giving love every day, and you’ll see it begin to come back to you.

You don’t have to make grand gestures—even just complimenting someone on their gorgeous outfit, lending an ear to a troubled colleague for 20 minutes or giving an hour of your time to volunteer work each week can make a big difference. As a bonus, these types of activities may trigger wonderful new friendships!


5. Practice Affirmations Before Socializing


Finally, you can help to get yourself into the right headspace for making positive connections by giving yourself a bit of a pep talk before you socialize. Whether you’re going to spending time getting to know people at work, going to a party or attending a dinner, try to find affirmations that make you feel open and happy about the possibility of getting to know people.

Focus on your most positive qualities and the things that you know other people appreciate about you, and reaffirm your belief in these aspects of yourself. For example, you might say “I feel and trust the positive energy inside me” or “I have the power to attract positive people who will enrich my life.”

Depression:

Being in depression And when they kill themselves they find themselves in a bigger soup. They feel, 'Oh my God, this restlessness, these desires which had created such intense agony inside me has not gone. My body has gone but the agony has remained. It is only through the body that you can dispel the agony and get rid of misery. Instead you destroy the very instrument by which you can get rid of agony. When energy goes down you get depressed and when it goes further down suicidal tendencies arise. When the prana is high, this thought will not come. You will not be violent to yourself or others when your prana is high. Through proper breathing exercises, some meditation and through good and loving company energy can go up. Anyone with suicidal tendencies should be led to someone who can teach them meditation, who can make them do some breathing exercises and raise their energy level. Every day, for ten minutes meditate and become hollow and empty. We need to create a society free from stress and violence, and the way for it is through meditation. Many times when we sit for meditation, the mind goes all over the place. That is where Sudarshan Kriya, which is a breathing technique, and yoga, both of these help the mind to calm down and become serene. Personal development is very important for everyone. See life from a broader perspective. 80 years of life we are living, is it worth being stressed, unhappy? In this short span of life, we should spend our time being happy and making others happy. If You Get Thoughts Of Committing Suicide: 1. Know that it is just your prana which is low, so do more pranayama 2. There are millions of people who are suffering more than you, look at them. When your suffering becomes smaller you will not think of committing suicide. 3. Know that you are needed, you are useful. You have to do something in the world. 4. Forget about what people think of you: People commit suicide because they think they have lost their prestige, their status. What status? What prestige? Who has time to think about your prestige? Everybody is entangled with their own problems, with their own mind. They can't step out of their own mind, where do they have the time to think about you? It is worthless to worry about what the society thinks of you. Life is much more than just a few material possessions. Life is much more than blame or appreciation from someone. Life is much more than a relationship or a job. The reason for suicide is failure in relationship, failure in job and not being able to achieve what you want to achieve. Life is much more than the small desires that pop up in your consciousness, in your mind. See life from a bigger perspective and engage yourself in some sort of social activity; service activity. Service or seva can keep people sane and keep them out of this mental depression. Mental depression is worse than an economic recession. One has to take responsibility to sail over this and help others around them. Taking every crisis as a challenge, as an opportunity is what we need to promote in the world.

SMILE

A curve that makes everything straight! You have guessed it right – SMILE

 How do we remember smiles? Hmm… let’s take a glance at our lives. When and where did we smile? A bit of flash back is required.

 Your parents holding you and trying to make you sleep and that sudden beaming smile! Hearts melt and there they go admiring you for the rest of the day.  Now let’s come to the year you might remember seeing few things that you like. Your favourite toy or favourite people around you. We would end up smiling or laughing even someone tore a paper in front of you! Ah! Such innocent days they were!

 Later we grow up to cry most of the times confused between haves and wants! Once we decide on that, our tastes would have changed. Oh! That teenage where half of it is spent in giggling and the rest is spent on thinking what to do next in life! Thanks to peer pressure and parental pressure!

 Oops did I forget to mention about the first ever crush we had! Now am sure most of you would be smiling and thinking about it! See that brings a smile; attached with some good and not so good memories! All that now might look so silly and childish!

 The results that we achieved, the best friends we had, the best of the times we spent, the bunking of the classes, trying to get that attention from few people! Oh! How thrilling that was! I am sure there is a gush of emotions running through us now. Wait it is not over yet!

 The confident smile comes from the achievements. Well, academically! Those never ending job interviews, presentations, and interactions so many things that would have gone behind all that hard work. If you sit and think now, I feel it was all worth it.

 Now let’s be a little serious. Finding your life partner! Hey! I am not telling it’s a bad decision to get married (ha!ha!ha!) but I am asking you all to relive those emotions and the smiles behind the beautiful courtship days. Ticklish isn’t it?

 Of all these smiles do you know we have forgotten one smile that is very important? Any guesses? I know some of you have smiled and some of you choose not to smile. Smiling during hardships! Of course, Yes. We all smile during the happy days and would love to relive those moments time and again. But never want to muster the courage to SMILE during hardship. I urge and challenge you all to do that.

 It’s one of the best acts of courage. For those who do not understand the beauty of it - Try it. It’s the best jewel one can ever wear.

Decisions or changes in your life

Do you find it difficult to make decisions or changes in your life, without seeking reassurance from the opinions of those around you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone.

As a society, we have become far too pre-occupied with what others may think of us. Arguably, our constant need for approval and a want to ‘fit-in’ is a big part of what makes us human. After all, it is this need to ‘fit-in’ that has helped us to survive and evolve as a species. However, when do we know when to draw the line and live for own happiness rather than for the happiness of others? When is it time to say that enough is enough?

Too often we allow our fear of what others think of us to dominate our lives; preventing us from fulfilling our ambitions, speaking our true minds or from even revealing our authentic selves. We allow the opinions of others; namely, our friends, families, work colleagues or even total strangers to change the direction of our lives. Some of these people may be a big part of your life and care for you deeply, but ask yourself – do any of them know you better than you know yourself?

Having the support of people around you that appreciate and love you for who you are and what you can do, can be an incredible feeling. However, having the support of others in all of your opinions and choices is in no way essential to your  happiness. You do not need anyone’s approval or validation – you are good enough just as you are.

When the time comes for making positive change in your life, remember this; it is your happiness and your life that you are taking charge of. Therefore, it is only your opinion that is of any importance.

Why Your Opinion Is The Most Important One Of All

1. No one knows you better than you.

When we try to make positive change in our lives, it is often the people who care about us the most that are the problem. From your family to your friends, there will be many people who falsely claim to know you better than you know yourself

Sometimes, agreeing with the people that we care about at the cost of our own opinions can seem like the easy way out. However, if you do this you are only setting yourself up for future miser

 Your Opinion Is The Only One That could do  you find it difficult to make decisions or changes in your life, without seeking reassurance from the opinions of those around you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone.

As a society, we have become far too pre-occupied with what others may think of us. Arguably, our constant need for approval and a want to ‘fit-in’ is a big part of what makes us human. After all, it is this need to ‘fit-in’ that has helped us to survive and evolve as a species. However, when do we know when to draw the line and live for own happiness rather than for the happiness of others? When is it time to say that enough is enough?

Too often we allow our fear of what others think of us to dominate our lives; preventing us from fulfilling our ambitions, speaking our true minds or from even revealing our authentic selves. We allow the opinions of others; namely, our friends, families, work colleagues or even total strangers to change the direction of our lives. Some of these people may be a big part of your life and care for you deeply, but ask yourself – do any of them know you better than you know yourself?

Having the support of people around you that appreciate and love you for who you are and what you can do, can be an incredible feeling. However, having the support of others in all of your opinions and choices is in no way essential to your  happiness. You do not need anyone’s approval or validation – you are good enough just as you are.

When the time comes for making positive change in your life, remember this; it is your happiness and your life that you are taking charge of. Therefore, it is only your opinion that is of any importance.

Why Your Opinion Is The Most Important One Of All

1. No one knows you better than you.

When we try to make positive change in our lives, it is often the people who care about us the most that are the problem. From your family to your friends, there will be many people who falsely claim to know you better than you know yourself

Sometimes, agreeing with the people that we care about at the cost of our own opinions can seem like the easy way out. However, if you do this you are only setting yourself up for future misery.

If these people really ‘got you’ they would understand that you, not they, know what is best for your life. So, if you find that the people you love cannot be strong enough to let you stand alone and make your own decision, then you have to be strong enough for the both of you and take the initiative. Gracefully dismiss their opinions – they are of no importance to you or what you hope to achieve – and follow your own intuition. Have faith in your opinions and actions. You know what is best for you, just follow your gut.

2. Others will judge you based on their own insecurities.

When other people judge us or try to inflict their opinions on us, these are usually reflection of their own insecurities.

Many people are often reluctant to move out of their comfort zone, so when they see someone else do it they can find it uncomfortable as they are forced to stop and take stock of their own lives. A recognizable example of this happening on a small scale could be this; you go out for dinner with friends and they torment you for selecting the sensible option, teasingly inviting you to share some chips with them. This is a trivial example, but it shows how difficult others can find it to support our decisions for change in even the smallest areas of our lives.

So, be wary of opinions that come from a place of fear – they do not have your best interests at heart and should be ignored.

3. Your life, your rules.

It is important to be considerate and understanding of other people’s opinions; but no more so than to your own! It is your life and happiness which is at stake, nobody else’s.

The people around you may judge and resist your opinions and choices, but in the end, each person is responsible for taking care of their own happiness and well being. Make sure you take responsibility for yours.

When it comes to making decisions or making changes in your life, listen to gut instinct. It is your life and your happiness that is hanging in the balance, so the only opinion you should be listening to is yours.

Align your actions with your authentic self. Begin to live your life your way. The after-effects can amaze you.

- Kruthi

An Advice to u........

An Advice to u........

The sea hath many thousand sands,

The sun hath motes as many;

The sky is full of stars, and Love

As full of woes as any:

Believe me, that do know the elf,

And make no trial by thyself!

It is in truth a pretty toy

For babes to play withal:

But O, the honies of our youth

Are oft our age's gall:

Self-proof in time will make thee know

He was a prophet told thee so:

A prophet that, Cassandra-like,

Tells truth without belief;

For headstrong Youth will run his race,

Although his goal be grief: -

Love's Martyr, when his heat is past,.....

An Interesting eye opener.....

An Intresting eye opener.....

As usual, cuddled on my sofa for my fav program Crime Patrol, Amma was screaming " Will you stop watching these Crime programs". It caught in my intrest as it was not a regular crime story & amma was also  Initially, I was for sure that programme would contain full of criminal related incidents but a true incident somewhere in our country. But as the programme progressed, it was of a crime that reached to the Police and Court though, but in a different reason then what we usually witness. The story however changed my perception and taught me in many ways about the secularism, and also gave me some hope of peaceful and communal riots free society in the Hindustan that we say our country.

The story was all about a men who earns his bread by selling tea on the streets of Lucknow. The year was 2003 where he came across this young abandoned boy of three years hardly at the park near his hut. The boy was Muslim and it did not take much time for this Hindu men to know that boy is a Muslim after enquiring the name of boy and he is lost. He then takes this ailing child to hospital and took care of everything that child needed to recover from his sickness. Next thing he did was to inform police and neighbours about the found child. As time passes by, but still there was no sign of boy’s biological parents. Going against the suggestions of his friends and neighbours, the men decided to adopt a child. The decision was not less than a challenge for this simple Hindu man with limited source of income surrounded by Hindu conservatives as neighbours. He was determined to do anything for the child he found helplessly in the park. So, he admitted the boy to local school and started giving him the best of education that the men himself missed in his childhood. However, even discarding the criticism and odds of his society, he took boy to Imam Sahib in the nearby Masjid. His objective was to give this little boy all the knowledge of Quran and do everything that boy’s Muslim biological parents would have done. Arrival of boy in his life had brought a light of joy in this men’s life filled with laughter and love. Moreover, the boy had started growing well both in academically and spiritually. However, in their five years of living together as a father and son in harmony and love, a fate had brought twist in their story, that they could have hardly imagined. It was television news reporter who happened to sip a tea at men’s stall and heard about the story “Hindu men raising a Muslim boy”. Upon the request of the story hunting reporter both the son and father (boy and men) agreed to give an interview. As one could expect, the story became breaking news and soon it attract lot of other reporters too. Now it is to be said fortunately or unfortunately, a Muslim couple in far off Delhi caught the story on television. The surprised couple rather happily started rejoicing the news that their lost child has been found and is very much alive in Lucknow. Without wasting much of time, the couple took a train ride very next day and reported straight to the police station in Lucknow. The shocked police acted on their report and summoned both the boy and the men (now his father). The police started their investigation upon the claim of biological parents and on the other hands the news put both the father and son in dismay. Made them painful to digest the fact that they have to live separately leaving behind all the loving bonds that they have created over the last five years of living together. The boy on the other hand refused to go with his biological parents which ultimately reached their case to the court, because the parents then had lodged an affidavit before the court upon which the father (men) received a show cause notice from the court asking to appear before the court along with the boy.

The case started, and lawyer representing both the sides started their arguments. Parent’s lawyer made an important and effective arguments pleading court to hand over custody to biologically legal parents. On the other hand, with the support of all the neighbours, including Muslim imam, docter who treated ailing boy at first, clerk at the school who gave admission in school and friends, his lawyer too submitted rather strong objection. Perhaps, for the first time in the judicial history the judge had to justify which was beyond any constitutional limitations. The DNA sample proved as boy’s biological parents and that boy’s father had lost his son while drinking in local liquor shop while drinking, forgetting thus the whereabouts of his son. Their, major weakness was they had never lodged any complaint against their missing son nor they had published anywhere in newspapers. With crossword questions to the men, enquiring about his motives about keeping this young boy’s identity as Muslim and financial status the strong articulating Lawyer of biological parents, the case was almost to be win by the biological parents, however then came the last but life changing confession from the men’s friend who ironically happened to be Muslim too. The men shared the history that kept everybody in the court including the Judge in dismay. The story thus reminded of the law of the nature or so called the law of Karma. The men, who earns his bread by selling tea at the roadside, living single in poverty, deciding to adopt a abandoned Muslim boy as his son without letting that little boy to change his religion was none other than the men who himself was found and adopted by the Muslim man keeping thus his faith unchangeably. And the man who confessed that story too was none other than his God-brother who was brought up together under the same roof and tenderness from the same Muslim parents. The man later says ‘I am a Hindu brought up by a kind Muslim man. When I found boy, it was like God telling me that it is time to return the love and care I got from His people. I was never forced to change my religion and, having got that education from my guardian, it was my duty to take care of the child and bring him up as per his own religion,”

Atlast but not the least, after days of melodrama in the court, Judge said ‘India is a secular country where the consideration of caste and creed should not be allowed to prevail. “...If there can be inter-caste marriages... there can also be an inter-caste ‘father and son’ relationship and that need not raise eyebrows,” the judge said. And the custody of the Child was given to the man.

Laslty, the story thus reminds everybody including myself about the true philosophy of the religion is not just to practice one’s own religion and let others too to practice it but it is all about letting the one to follow the one that he is best suited in. It is all about religious tolerance, respect for other religious sentiments and religious harmony, spreading thus the message of brotherhood and defining us the spirit of secularism, in this huge nation of ours which fortunately is known as country of “SECULARISM”.

One evening... in the rain

When I read the articles watched the doom created by floods in the northern part of Karnataka & Andra. It really pushed me back into nostalgia not a pleasant one though. Way back in 2005, it was the most dreadful day of my life. It was 26th July & Vijai had left to Seatlle on 22nd July, my parents had left back to Bangalore on 25th July. As usual I went to my work in Koregaon Park. Unknowingly me & Praveen started home & reached Pune Station. As Susheel (Praveena’s husband) picked her from the station, I was left alone. I waited for long hours & there was no sign of any bus to Nigdi, people started talking that there was a red alert & no buses would be available. I rushed to the railway station, to my surprise there were no local trains either. I started getting panicky & my MIL called & started crying…… I was in a total confusion & a mess, dint know what to do??? I came back to the bus stand trying to look for any known faces, but in vain …. Just then one lady walked towards me & asked if I was going towards Nigdi I said ‘Yes’…. Then she said wait & came back with another lady… she said our common destination is Nigdi, we will all go together… I was relieved as Praveena & gone a long way… Vijai wasn’t there, or we cud make some alternative arrangement…. My MIL was calling on & on … My parents were unaware of all this. Then all the three of us got together to find a cab or a rick…. Normally they used to charge 200/- but thn they said they would charge 900/- we said ‘OK’ in chorus… & got in2 the rick, This is when the actual journey began…. Three strange people had become the BEST of FRIENDS …. We were glad that we will reach home soon & none of us could swim…. Pune is a city where 2 rivers flow inside the city & we had to cross two bridges if we would take our regular route, but the auto guy had taken a new route as we would get only one route….. It was pouring like hell, I never knew rain could be so dreadful & scary… We were getting on a bridge & this is where all began the water had begun to raise up to our knee when we were inside the rick…. & 2 our ill luck the rick came on two wheels & the front wheel was in the air…. We all had no choice but to get into the water now…. There were loads of people struggling, we in2 water & it was till the level of the waist, mobile signal & battery both had died…. Now was the real terror as we knew that man holes were open to discharge water & it wasn’t known where the man holes were located…. & the most dreadful thing for me was, on our regular travel I used to see loads of snake holes on the either sides of the bridges now all had vanished, I used to scream if something would touch my feet, in my entire life I never prayed for my life… today I dint want to die as a deserted soul & felt I could never see my parents, brother, vijai & my family … three of us were holding each other’s hands as the water current was high & we had to have a human chain, & we used to go breathless in between & still manage to walk…. All ill luck comes in one go, the best example is Lavanya (the friend who was with me) had an asthama attack …. I simply can’t describe my plight…. We some how managed to reach the road & we tried stopping the cars that were moving, human is human’s best enemy & none of them bothered to stop for us to give a helping hand… Lavanya was losing it bt by bit as her inhaler was not functional as it was drenched in rain…. We dint know what to do, by then a van was coming we literally begged them & reached Nigdi ALIVE… & it was 11:30PM & my Father in law was waiting to take me…. the three of us hugged each other with tears rolling & thanking each other we parted ways, this is the biggest lesson in my life that we met as strangers & parted as good friends… I reached home, I had never seen myself in such a terrible state I was trembling with fear & my MIL hugged me & cried & cried…. I went into the bathroom to take bath & put the tap on & cried loud… I donno I never fear death but I really don’t know what I feared… I came out I spoke 2 mommy & daddy they started crying… then I spoke to pushpakka, bunty & couldn’t reach my brother… Spoke to Vijai but dint reveal anything…. I couldn’t sleep the entire night I used to wake up in sleep & tremble…. To this day when I see floods due to rainfall I go back & know the trauma…

I felt like sharing my terrible experience with you all …..