Still not Progressing!!

Oh no! You are tired again! Feelin’ lazy? Got no motivation to work?
Well, how about a cup of coffee and a chocolate bar? Still no progress? 
You can’t relax? Get a drink, have a smoke, or go check the fridge — there should be something to cheer you up in there!
Those are some easy tips everyone loves referring to.
Yet applying them to real life doesn’t get you anywhere — you end up feeling like a squeezed lemon, braindead, and dog-tired. You are just lying on the couch, staring blankly at the TV screen. Exhausted. Dead tired. But you are not alone. Millions of people have exactly the same experience daily. A whole nation of tired people.
So what now? Are we doomed?
No, we aren’t. Personal energy management is here to help us. It’s not a fast solution, but it works. And this article will show you how.
We have everything
A modern human being has it all: a PC and the Internet to write endless reports anywhere in the world. An automobile to make it to and from work faster. An annual pass to a gym and a treadmill at home to keep fit. A spouse, kids, an apartment, and a summer house to build perfect family happiness. We have everything.
We know everything
Don’t we? For instance, it’s a fact that we all should do morning exercise. Watch less TV and read more. Smile at our children and get our spouses presents for no reason at all, just to make them happy. It’s all common knowledge, right?
But we do nothing!
I can hear you denying this. But you shouldn’t. Try recalling all of your numerous attempts to change: buying new running shoes, waking up at 6 a.m., taking an ice-cold shower, and heading to a gym. Sure enough, you’ll be giving this new lifestyle up in 2-5 days to start over in a year or so. That’s not a question of willpower. Willpower tends to run out. Then what IS the problem?
We lack energy
What kind of energy? Well, when your car runs out of gas, you buy some more and pour it in. So does that mean that you need to swallow something to get energy? Not really. Personal energy management has nothing to do with calories. But it has to do with 4 types of energy.
Physical energy
A detailed plan, time management, bonuses, other people’s expectations — these are some factors that may motivate you well enough. But do you really care about those things when it has been 48 hours since you last slept? Or if you are drunk as a skunk? Or if you have a terrible headache?
Yes, I’m exaggerating. And I do so to show you that if you lack physical energy nothing else matters. You are doomed to failure.
How to restore your physical energy?
* Exercise. Do the sports you love. For instance, I play football and walk a lot..
* Get no less than 7 hours of sleep. I also suggest you take up napping — it will make you feel refreshed.
* Eat healthy meals. Listen to your bodу. Remove the junk food and add healthier options such as fruit instead of cookies and chips.
I bet you’re saying: ’Thanks, Captain Obvious!’ Yep, this stuff is as clear as day. Or did you expect me to be sharing trigonometric equations with you?
2. Emotional energy:
Even if your physical energy is boosted, you need to make sure not to screw up here. You might have noticed that when you are angry or frustrated those feelings make it harder to concentrate on your work — constant troublesome thoughts never helped anyone to get a project done.
And vice versa: if you get positive feedback at work, it’ll brighten up your day and motivate you to work harder.
Feelings of content, challenges, adventures, new opportunities — these are the factors that boost our emotional energy, while anger, offense, and annoyance suck the energy out.
3. Intellectual energy
That’s your creativity, time management, and plan-making skills and the ability to concentrate. If you lack intellectual energy it becomes much harder for you to work.
Try reading books, playing music, drawing, doodling, and meditating instead of Facebooking, gaming, and Netflixing.
4. Spiritual energy
What’s the meaning of your life? Why do you work at this company? Where will your path lead to? Some people spend their lives running around like headless chickens, never even attempting to answer these questions.
This approach will help you survive, but it certainly won’t help you make great things happen.
A way to restore it: think bigger, work for charity, and commit to a good cause.
The pulse of life
This is one of the key concepts of energy management. It’s important to alternate work and leisure: work — rest — work — rest.
Why do problems appear? Because you get carried away and forget to rest.
Always find time for work/leisure alternation:
* During the day (for instance, try the Pomodoro technique).
* Within 24 hours (nocturnal sleep, napping).
* Within a week (weekend).
* Over the course of the year (vacation).
Don’t be too harsh on yourself! All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
You can build up your ’energy muscles’
To build up rippling muscles you’ll need to train hard and to have a proper rest. Without proper rehabilitation your muscles wouldn’t be able to straighten and grow.
The same is true for our ’energy muscles.’ If you alternate work and rehabilitation, gently increasing the workload at the same time, your muscles will start growing.
We have all met those optimistic and goal-oriented people who can energize everyone else and, at the same time, be productive. Who are those people? How did they accomplish this?
Those are the people who exercise their ’energy muscles’!
What’s next?
That’s not a tricky part any longer. Stop whining and groaning.
You are a person with endless opportunities. You know that you lack energy and you know how to get it.
So go get it! Dare to be!

IF YOU ARE FEELING SAD...

Sometimes we are not at the best of our spirits... Sometimes notice seem to entice or bring in joy... Sometimes everything u get ur hands on leaves you in fatigue... If you are feeling sad, you are not in a 'low vibration'. You are not sick or broken or unenlightened or far from healing. You are not 'trapped in your ego' or stuck in the 'separate self'. You are not being negative, and you don't need to be fixed, and sadness is not a mistake, because it's life moving in you, and life can't be a mistake, ever.

You are just feeling sad, that's all.

It's a feeling state playing out on the vibrantly alive movie screen of presence, that's all.

It's not a problem that requires a solution or a band-aid. It's a sacred and precious part of you longing for love, acceptance, embrace, rest.

You've been blessed by sadness today; you've been chosen as her home; don't run away from such a truly precious gift... It's fine to be sad.. It's fine to sulk... But don't stay there for long :)...

Self Worth!!!

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

It's better to say a sorry than be sorry!!

Today there was a small tiff between my him and me. But this had made the air so thick and heavy at that you could cut it with a knife. The cold war was spreading too much negativity around me and I cud sense he was restless just like me ! In such situations, I tend to run to the expert "The Me". "What is more important to me right now? Is it to prove my point right means the ultimate to me, or is it the person standing in front of me?" I ask. I get an honest reply....   Yes, it's not very easy to convince myself every time that it was I who greased the wheels for him being indignant towards me. I hold back those tears as I look at him frantically to be hugged. I feel betrayed, when he disregards to come back and talk. But when I know that he too treasures this relationship, then I should acquiesce to it!
Now, what if I wrangled? Our lives would still go forth. He would still get ready to office and leave at the same time. But.... would it be the same? I would miss hugging him talking every small thing that hpnd from morn to eve. I miss his aura around me, no laughter and no fun! All these at the cost of what? I mean, is it worth it?  Understanding what's cardinal and to act accordingly is what it takes.  So I dnt mind doing anything to mend what went wrong and don't want to validate who is right and who's wrong and hence.went up to him and said "sorry!"  and THAT resolved the issue, I wish it did.
A person who is clear about his priorities in life, a person who adores his relationship more than his ego! Trust me, it takes a lot of guts to apologize for the mistake you didn't do!  When our ego takes a back seat, we can contrive to a lot of enjoyable and memorable moments in life. Life is a compilation of many such lovely moments. It is these moments which we flash on and that brings a smile on our old wrinkled face tomorrow. And that's why I feel... "It's better to say a sorry than be sorry!!" - food for thought!

Contentfull

Life has many turns leading to miracles and inspiring to live a contentful life... it lies in how one revives it.
For years my wife Keri and I struggled. Looking back, I’m not exactly sure what initially drew us together, but our personalities didn’t quite match up. And the longer we were married the more extreme the differences seemed. Encountering «fame and fortune it didn’t make our marriage any easier. In fact, it exacerbated our problems. The tension between us got so bad that going out on book tour became a relief, though it seems we always paid for it on re-entry. Our fighting became so constant that it was difficult to even imagine a peaceful relationship. We became perpetually defensive, building emotional fortresses around our hearts. We were on the edge of divorce and more than once we discussed it.
I was on book tour when things came to a head. We had just had another big fight on the phone and Keri had hung up on me. I was alone and lonely, frustrated and angry. I had reached my limit. That’s when I turned to God. Or turned on God. I don’t know if you could call it prayer—maybe shouting at God isn’t prayer, maybe it is—but whatever I was engaged in I’ll never forget it. I was standing in the shower & yelling at God that marriage was wrong and I couldn’t do it anymore. As much as I hated the idea of divorce, the pain of being together was just too much. I was also confused. I couldn’t figure out why marriage with Keri was so hard. Deep down I knew that Keri was a good person. And I was a good person. So why couldn’t we get along? Why had I married someone so different than me? Why wouldn’t she change?
Finally, hoarse and broken, I sat down in the shower and began to cry. In the depths of my despair powerful inspiration came to me. You can’t change her, Rick. You can only change yourself. At that moment I began to pray. If I can’t change her, God, then change me. I prayed late into the night. I prayed the next day on the flight home. I prayed as I walked in the door to a cold wife who barely even acknowledged me. That night, as we lay in our bed, inches from each other yet miles apart, the inspiration came. I knew what I had to do.
The next morning I rolled over in bed next to Keri and asked, How can I make your day better?
Keri looked at me angrily. What?
How can I make your day better?
You can’t,» she said . «Why are you asking that?»
«Because I mean it,» I said. «I just want to know what I can do to make your day better 
She looked at me cynically. «You want to do something? Go clean the kitchen.»
She likely expected me to get mad. Instead I just nodded. «Okay.» I got up and cleaned the kitchen.
The next day I asked the same thing. «What can I do to make your day better?»
Her eyes narrowed. «Clean the garage.»
I took a deep breath. I already had a busy day and I knew she had made the request in spite. I was tempted to blow up at her. Instead I said, «Okay.» I got up and for the next two hours cleaned the garage. Keri wasn’t sure what to think.
The next morning came. «What can I do to make your day better?»
«Nothing!» she said. «You can’t do anything. Please stop saying that.»
«I’m sorry,» I said. «But I can’t. I made a commitment to myself. What can I do to make your day better?»
«Why are you doing this?»
«Because I care about you,» I said. «And our marriage.»
The next morning I asked again. And the next. And the next. Then, during the second week, a miracle occurred. As I asked the question Keri’s eyes welled up with tears. Then she broke down crying. When she could speak she said, «Please stop asking me that. You’re not the problem. I am. I’m hard to live with. I don’t know why you stay with me.»
I gently lifted her chin until she was looking in my eyes. «It’s because I love you,» I said. «What can I do to make your day better?»
«I should be asking you that.»
«You should,» I said. «But not now. Right now, I need to be the change. You need to know how much you mean to me.»
She put her head against my chest. «I’m sorry I’ve been so mean.»
«I love you,» I said.
«I love you,» she replied.
«What can I do to make your day better?»
She looked at me sweetly. «Can we maybe just spend some time together?»
I smiled. «I’d like that.»
I continued asking for more than a month. And things did change. The fighting stopped. Then Keri began asking, «What do you need from me? How can I be a better wife?»
The walls between us fell. We began having meaningful discussions on what we wanted from life and how we could make each other happier. No, we didn’t solve all our problems. I can’t even say that we never fought again. But the nature of our fights changed. Not only were they becoming more and more rare, they lacked the energy they’d once had. We’d deprived them of oxygen. We just didn’t have it in us to hurt each other anymore.
Keri and I have now been married for more than thirty years. I not only love my wife, I like her. I like being with her. I crave her. I need her. Many of our differences have become strengths and the others don’t really matter. We’ve learned how to take care of each other and, more importantly, we’ve gained the desire to do so.
Marriage is hard. But so is parenthood and keeping fit and writing books and everything else important and worthwhile in my life. To have a partner in life is a remarkable gift. I’ve also learned that the institution of marriage can help heal us of our most unlovable parts. And we all have unlovable parts.
Through time I’ve learned that our experience was an illustration of a much larger lesson about marriage. The question everyone in a committed relationship should ask their significant other is, «What can I do to make your life better?» Thatis love. Romance novels (and I’ve written a few) are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn’t come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in most pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person, but to truly desire their happiness—sometimes, even, at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is not to make another person a carbon copy of one’s self. It is to expand our own capabilities of tolerance and  and writing books and everything else important and worthwhile in my life. To have a partner in life is a remarkable gift. I’ve also learned that the institution of marriage can help heal us of our most unlovable parts. And we all have unlovable parts.
Through time I’ve learned that our experience was an illustration of a much larger lesson about marriage. The question everyone in a committed relationship should ask their significant other is, «What can I do to make your life better?» Thatis love. Romance novels (and I’ve written a few) are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn’t come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in most pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person, but to truly desire their happiness—sometimes, even, at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is not to make another person a carbon copy of one’s self. It is to expand our own capabilities of tolerance and caring, to actively seek another’s well being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.
I’m not saying that what happened to Keri and me will work for everyone. I’m not even claiming that all marriages should be saved. But for me, I am incredibly grateful for the inspiration that came to me that day so long ago. I’m grateful that my family is still intact and that I still have my wife, my best friend, in bed next to me when I wake in the morning. And I’m grateful that even now, decades later, every now and then, one of us will still roll over and say, «What can I do to make your day better.» Being on either side of that question is something worth waking up for.’

In you...

All I ever wanted was to be part of your heart,
And for us to be together, to never be apart.

No one else in the world can even compare,
You're perfect and so is this love that we share.

We have so much more than I ever thought we would,
I love you more than I ever thought I could.

I promise to give you all I have to give,
I'll do anything for you as long as I live.

In your eyes I see our present, our future and past,
By the way you look at me I know we will last.

I hope that one day you'll come to realize,
How perfect you are when seen through my eyes.

Sleep...

Don't let her go to sleep upset... because she will only toss n turn in frustration until sadness turns you to sleep n tear strain her pillow... you will be her first thought when she wakes up n more than anything she wishes she goes back to sleep in silence n empty darkness

Deep in the soul

Chatter chatter she goes on... chuckle chuckle for the smallest of the things.. then again is she beautiful??? Yes... She's beautiful but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked abt something she loved. She was beautiful for the ability to make other people smile, even if she was no she wasn't beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful deep down in her soul... kudos to u who has her eyes on this... keep going it's beautiful :)

Kruthi

She

I asked her if she was ok
N she said "I am fine I swear"
When I looked deep into her eyes
Something untold something very painful
She looked away in a jiffy
N tried to put on her best smile
She with a shrill voice told "I will sail through it's just taking a little time"
I knew she was hurting
I knew her pain was deep
She felt the burden of hers n wanted to keep it to her own self
My hands reached out to her
Our hands entwined
I just uttered "I love you my dear
So your burdens are mine"
Tears rolled her cheeks n my hands reached to wipe them FOREVER

Kruthi

I love you. I’m just not in love with you.

If you’ve been in a few romantic relationships before, you may be a little too familiar with the phrase, “I love you. I’m just not in love with you.” Whether you’re the person saying it or whether it’s being said to you, the person speaking usually doesn’t quite know what they mean, and the person being spoken to usually has even less of an idea of what these words really mean. With all of that being said, it’s difficult to argue that there is a distinction between loving someone and being in love with someone. Please continue reading to learn more of the specifics, and to better comprehend when you’re part of one of these distinct relationships in the future.
Unfortunately, the word love has become a bit of a cliché, and as a result, some human beings don’t fully appreciate how special it is to either love or be loved. Even if someone genuinely loves you in a non-romantic way, this is still something to feel positive about. Of course, it may be impossible to feel this way about the situation if you are in love with them and their love is different, but usually it’s possible to see the reality of the situation (or of what the situation was) in time. What’s more, when two human beings really are in love with each other, it’s even more of a Universal blessing than they usually acknowledge.
Metaphysical love
If you know in your heart that you still love a person—even if you haven’t seen or spoken to them in years—and will always love them forever regardless of virtually any of their future words or actions, then your love really is existential. Of course, it makes you wonder how any human being could ever spend so much time away from another person they feel this way about.
Self love is not being in love
By the same token, if you feel as though your are “in love” with another person but it is clear that they are not in love with you—then it can’t be true or genuine romantic love. Of course, it’s usually worth it to continue spending time with the other person in order to see if your passionate feelings will soon be reciprocated, but once it becomes clear they never will be, then you can’t be in true love with the person.

How To Believe In What You Want To Attract

If you’re going to use the Law of Attraction as an effective tool, one of the most important things that you need to do is truly believe that you can obtain the things you want in life. Whether you’re longing for an ideal partner, a great job or a fit physique, know that you can meet your goals. Entertaining doubts or negative ideas merely inhibits your ability to get the things you deserve. If you find it difficult to really believe in what you want to attract, use these five steps to cultivate a different mindset.

1. Replace Negative With Positive

Each time you notice you’re feeling down or worrying that you will never meet your goals, reject this thought and replace it with an analogous positive thought. For example, firmly tell yourself that you are well on your way to finding the love of your life, that you know you can achieve your career aims, or that you will be happy again after your divorce. As you get used to replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, the process will gradually get easier.

2. Live Like You Have What You Want

Living like you already have that ideal partner, dream job or overflowing bank account can enhance your ability to manifest your goals. Although you might feel self-conscious or awkward at first, this exercise will begin to feel truly powerful if you do something like browse online for things you’ll afford when you’re more prosperous or buy a card that is addressed to your future spouse. Proponents of the Law of Attraction sometimes call this approach “living in the knowingness” and it is a lifestyle infused with positivity and confidence that can help to make you a more dynamic, magnetic person.

3. Read Success Stories

There are dozens of success stories revealing how people all across the globe used the Law of Attraction as a tool in transforming their lives. Reading these stories will connect you with the reality that learning how to use the Law of Attraction really can make an enormous difference to your happiness and satisfaction, helping you to get rid of lingering doubts about

You can start by listening to my success story here. You will learn what I discovered to be the most powerful manifesting energy source ever known.

4. Say and Write Affirmations


You probably already know that affirmations are a key part of using the Law of Attraction, but you may not have considered that they can be used to actually strengthen your belief in what you want to attract. For example, you might say “I know my soul mate is out there looking for me” as you look at yourself in the mirror, or you could say “Everything I did today is leading me towards a better life” before you go to bed at night. Repeatedly writing affirmations can make them even more effective, as can placing them on large pieces of paper that can be seen when you’re getting ready in the morning. Any message that connects you to the truth of your future happiness can be a valuable and powerful way of increasing the Law of Attraction’s pull.

5. Boost Your Confidence

Often, it is low self-esteem that underlies difficulties believing in what you want to attract. While difficult life experiences and painful memories of early life can make it hard to feel good about yourself, taking a positive perspective on your own worth is essential for using the Law of Attraction. Firstly, think about why you struggle with confidence issues, and dismiss the underlying assumptions that you discover. For example, you might remember being told you were unattractive when you were bullied at high school, but you can counteract this by focusing on the many times you have been complimented or asked on dates in adult life. Secondly, nurture the parts of yourself that make you most proud. Whether you’re physically capable, creatively talented or a great listener, hone these skills and make them central parts of your life. The more your confidence increases in response to consistently good results, the easier it will be for you to believe that you genuinely deserve the things you’re attempting to use the Law of Attraction to obtain.

Que Sera Sera!!!

.... And then I learnt the spiritual journey had nothing to do with being nice... It was all about being authentic, real having boundaries... Honoring my space first others second... And in this space self care, being nice just happened... It flowed not motivated by fear but by love.... Miracles are bound to happen, keep forging with an ever lasting smile and you will live a BIG life not a LONG one.... So be it :) 

Virtue

"So today we find people praising women and calling her a pillar of strength and talking about her resilience. The patriarchal labels of wife, sister, mother and daughter are given to her and suddenly she is compared to a deity too. Please do not raise us on this false pedestal. Accept a woman as a flawed messed up human being too, who might not be a saint 24*7.  For every one woman you project as a saint or Mother India you look with contempt at thousands who don’t conform-a prostitute, a lesbian, a woman who enjoys sex and any ordinary woman who thinks for herself. You vilify those who flee from stereotypes and don’t fit into society defined roles. How about just respecting a woman as a human being?-All labels aside. Do not make a woman a paragon of virtue for one day".

Lot to add on...

⦁ I went to a wedding for a young, happy couple who were free spirited and ready to forge in their journey. They held hands and gazed into each other's eyes during the ceremony, and I saw the bride whisper "I love you" to him.

The officiant in the wedding was an older man who began to give advice to the couple. I sat back in my seat, preparing for the "love her every day" and "be each other's best friends" slogans we hear all the time.

But what he said next made me sit up in my chair.

"Some days, you're going to wake up and not like each other," he said.

Wait, is this real? Is he being this blunt at someone's wedding?

"And other days, one of you will believe you're right while the other believes they're right too. And you may go off in your own corners and think, 'Well, I'm right. And I'm not moving until the other person does.'"

The whole room was listening to this humorous man speak directly to the couple. He then told this bride and groom the key to overcoming these moments.

"There are four words that will solve this problem, every time." The man then turned to the groom.

"When you feel, in an argument, that you are right and she is wrong, you should take a deep breath, find her in the house, and say, 'Honey, you're probably right.'"

The man then turned to the bride and said, "And when you feel like he's done something wrong and has ruined the whole day, you should go to him and say, 'Honey, you're probably right.'"

"Honey, you're probably right."

Doesn't that go against everything we've learned? We're supposed to compromise, to recognize a right and a wrong, to stand up for ourselves in marriage. Why would we just say this when we don't believe

⦁ something about sacrifice and pride. Maybe you'll always think you were really right about buying that new car or going to your parent's house this Christmas. And maybe your spouse will still think they're right. But the first step to forgiveness and healing is to break your guard down, forget about who's right and who's wrong, and see things in a new perspective.

⦁ If these four words are said sarcastically, or if they're only used to end an argument, nothing will really be solved.

" for the expression "I'm sorry" to be truly sincere it has to be expressed with love and empathy, not merely to excuse oneself."

There will be times during your marriage when you'll be upset. You'll be wrong. And other times, you'll be right. Whenever you choose to say these four words, it will be because you've decided that it's more important to be married than to be right all the time.

Is Adjustment Life?

I got married at the age of 26, which according to my parents, was late. It was an inter-caste love marriage but both our families were happy. The first month was pretty good. I was on cloud nine. Everything was moving forward like a dream. I came from a nuclear family, and being youngest, I was quite pampered. But suddenly, after marriage, I was part of a joint family. Slowly, I started to feel some difficulties in adjustment. But I was still happy, I just wished for some cooperation and attention from my partner, specially considering we were newly married.

But within a short period of time, the problems with adjustment between me and my husband and my in-laws, became worse. My husband wanted a perfect ‘bahu’, and even though I was trying to mentally get ready for that, I just wanted my husband’s love, care, and attention. My husband was the center of my world, but my life was moving in a different direction. I left my job after marriage as there was too much mental pressure from family and office. I can’t say it was all my husband’s fault, it was mutual. But despite all the fights and differences, I chose my husband. My husband, on the other hand, chose separation. Without my knowledge, he filed for separation, on the first birthday of mine that we were supposed to celebrate together as a married couple. He left me alone at our rented apartment.

I came back to my parents’ home. That day, as my family discussed our issues, I just waited for a phone call from my husband to wish me on my birthday. I won’t say that I am good, but I can never do the same to him. Somehow, my family convinced him to come back to me. We started living together after 15 days but nothing was the same. He used to record my voice, our fights, our calls, our messages.

One night, I was shocked out of my senses when I saw separation papers in his bag. My messages were evidence. I did not like sharing my personal life with anyone, and he shared it with everyone. I used to be a woman who lived life on my own terms, but suddenly I had become just my husband’s wife. But he was not mine. He was always a good son, a great brother, but what about being a husband? He left me again after three months. My life had taken a U-turn. Even though I had all my family members with me for support, I felt so alone. My world, my husband, was not with me. Within 9 months of marriage, we had turned from newly married, to separated. Now only legal matters were our topics of discussion. We both filed cases against each other. I was shattered, I was completely depressed.

I had not wished for money or a luxurious life, I just wanted a loving, caring husband. I was never a good cook, but I really tried hard to cook for him. I asked him to adjust sometimes. I tried accepting and adjusting to everything, but everybody takes time in a new family. I was married to their son, but I felt that nobody took pains to make me feel comfortable, to help adjust to the new environment and surroundings. From getting up early, dressing up from head to toe, helping in the kitchen, nothing pleased to the family. Was it my in-laws’ responsibility to make me feel comfortable or his? I might have been wrong at many places, as I was new to their family, but my intention was never to do anything wrong against them.

It takes a lot of pain to leave your house, but an immense pain to come back to your house, separated. Life became tough for me as I used to hide myself from society. Suddenly, I stopped talking to everyone, including my family. I was only interested in talking to him. I was still thinking that he would realize his mistakes and come back to me. I thought, maybe I was not able to understand my faults? Even though I apologized several times, even my family, without being at fault, apologized, my husband and his family did not budge from their decision. I still wonder why he married me when this is what he wanted.

The journey from being married to being separated is always a mental torture. I separated at the age when most of my friends were not even engaged. I was a divorcee, a term that I found extremely regressive and judgmental because of the stigma attached to it. I knew now that my life would not be easy. Sometimes, families find it shameful to update the society on the newly acquired marital status of their children/siblings. It was painful for me to meet relatives at social gatherings. They ended up asking, “Where is your husband?”, “Why don’t you put sindoor?”. I was already going through my own pain and society loved to add salt to the wounds. I had to put on a brave face and deal with it but talking to some people always triggered negativity and hopelessness. It’s really shameful to say, women gossip around about other women, which is sad. The stress from all these issues had an impact on my health and appearance. I used to hate to see myself in the mirror. I hardly came out for the first year. But somehow, with the help of my family, I regained my physical and mental strength.

Some-Days and Some-People did pinch but I moved on. I had discovered that unless I stopped pitying myself, the society would not. Once I started accepting and respecting me and my choices, the universe accepted and cooperated as well. I still wonder what my future holds, but I am independent, living for myself, I got an MBA, have a good job and eventually will have a good man, but I don’t live with that hope. Now I am an HR Manager working with an MNC in Gurgaon. I am also pursuing my Ph.D., I want to become a professor. I have dreams, I want to do something good for the society. After this pain and struggle, I feel like I have become a strong, independent and mature woman. Even after one heart break marriage, I still feel marriage is a beautiful thing, a beautiful bond between a man and a woman. But I would advise people to think a thousand times before getting married, as in this one decision, not only you and your partner, but many other people are involved too.arried at the age of 26, which according to my parents, was late. It was an inter-caste love marriage but both our families were happy. The first month was pretty good. I was on cloud nine. Everything was moving forward like a dream. I came from a nuclear family, and being youngest, I was quite pampered. But suddenly, after marriage, I was part of a joint family. Slowly, I started to feel some difficulties in adjustment. But I was still happy, I just wished for some cooperation and attention from my partner, specially considering we were newly married.

But within a short period of time, the problems with adjustment between me and my husband and my in-laws, became worse. My husband wanted a perfect ‘bahu’, and even though I was trying to mentally get ready for that, I just wanted my husband’s love, care, and attention. My husband was the center of my world, but my life was moving in a different direction. I left my job after marriage as there was too much mental pressure from family and office. I can’t say it was all my husband’s fault, it was mutual. But despite all the fights and differences, I chose my husband. My husband, on the other hand, chose separation. Without my knowledge, he filed for separation, on the first birthday of mine that we were supposed to celebrate together as a married couple. He left me alone at our rented apartment.

I came back to my parents’ home. That day, as my family discussed our issues, I just waited for a phone call from my husband to wish me on my birthday. I won’t say that I am good, but I can never do the same to him. Somehow, my family convinced him to come back to me. We started living together after 15 days but nothing was the same. He used to record my voice, our fights, our calls, our messages.

One night, I was shocked out of my senses when I saw separation papers in his bag. My messages were evidence. I did not like sharing my personal life with anyone, and he shared it with everyone. I used to be a woman who lived life on my own terms, but suddenly I had become just my husband’s wife. But he was not mine. He was always a good son, a great brother, but what about being a husband? He left me again after three months. My life had taken a U-turn. Even though I had all my family members with me for support, I felt so alone. My world, my husband, was not with me. Within 9 months of marriage, we had turned from newly married, to separated. Now only legal matters were our topics of discussion. We both filed cases against each other. I was shattered, I was completely depressed.

I had not wished for money or a luxurious life, I just wanted a loving, caring husband. I was never a good cook, but I really tried hard to cook for him. I asked him to adjust sometimes. I tried accepting and adjusting to everything, but everybody takes time in a new family. I was married to their son, but I felt that nobody took pains to make me feel comfortable, to help adjust to the new environment and surroundings. From getting up early, dressing up from head to toe, helping in the kitchen, nothing pleased to the family. Was it my in-laws’ responsibility to make me feel comfortable or his? I might have been wrong at many places, as I was new to their family, but my intention was never to do anything wrong against them.

It takes a lot of pain to leave your house, but an immense pain to come back to your house, separated. Life became tough for me as I used to hide myself from society. Suddenly, I stopped talking to everyone, including my family. I was only interested in talking to him. I was still thinking that he would realize his mistakes and come back to me. I thought, maybe I was not able to understand my faults? Even though I apologized several times, even my family, without being at fault, apologized, my husband and his family did not budge from their decision. I still wonder why he married me when this is what he wanted.

The journey from being married to being separated is always a mental torture. I separated at the age when most of my friends were not even engaged. I was a divorcee, a term that I found extremely regressive and judgmental because of the stigma attached to it. I knew now that my life would not be easy. Sometimes, families find it shameful to update the society on the newly acquired marital status of their children/siblings. It was painful for me to meet relatives at social gatherings. They ended up asking, “Where is your husband?”, “Why don’t you put sindoor?”. I was already going through my own pain and society loved to add salt to the wounds. I had to put on a brave face and deal with it but talking to some people always triggered negativity and hopelessness. It’s really shameful to say, women gossip around about other women, which is sad. The stress from all these issues had an impact on my health and appearance. I used to hate to see myself in the mirror. I hardly came out for the first year. But somehow, with the help of my family, I regained my physical and mental strength.

Some-Days and Some-People did pinch but I moved on. I had discovered that unless I stopped pitying myself, the society would not. Once I started accepting and respecting me and my choices, the universe accepted and cooperated as well. I still wonder what my future holds, but I am independent, living for myself, I got an MBA, have a good job and eventually will have a good man, but I don’t live with that hope. Now I am an HR Manager working with an MNC in Gurgaon. I am also pursuing my Ph.D., I want to become a professor. I have dreams, I want to do something good for the society. After this pain and struggle, I feel like I have become a strong, independent and mature woman. Even after one heart break marriage, I still feel marriage is a beautiful thing, a beautiful bond between a man and a woman. But I would advise people to think a thousand times before getting married, as in this one decision, not only you and your partner, but many other people are involved too.

How a Password Changed my Life ...

I was having a great morning until I sat down in front of my office computer. “your password has expired”, a server message flashed on my screen, with instructions for changing it. Coming up with a new code doesn’t seem like a big deal, unless you work at my company, where we have to change it monthly, using at least one uppercase character, one lower case character, one symbol and one number. Oh and the password can’t be fewer than eight characters. And I can’t use any of the same passwords I’ve used in the past three months.

Suddenly I was furious. What didn’t make it any better was that I was deeply depressed after my recent divorce. Disbelief over what she had done to me was what I thought all day.

That didn’t mean anything to the empty field with the pulsating cursor, waiting for me to type a password that I have to re-enter many times – for the next 30 days. I remembered a tip I’d heard from my former boss. He’d said, “I’m going to use a password that is going to change my life”. I couldn’t focus on getting things done in my current mood. There was clear indication that I needed to regain control over my life, but I couldn’t heed them. My password became the indicator. My password reminded me that I shouldn’t let myself be a victim of my recent breakup and that I was strong enough to do something about it.

I made my password – Forgive@her. I had to type this password several times every day, each time my computer would lock. Each time I came back from lunch I wrote forgive her. The simple action changed the way I looked at my ex-wife. That constant reminder of reconciliation led me to accept the way things happened and helped me deal with my depression. As one month wore on, I felt a slow healing began to take place. By the time the server prompted me to change my password following month, I felt free.

The next time I had to change my password I thought about the next thing that I had to get done. My password became Quit@smoking4ever .

It motivated me to follow my goal and I was able to quit smoking.

One month later, my password became Save4trip@europe, and in three months I was able to visit Europe.

Seeing how reminders helped me materialize my goals kept me motivated and excited. While its sometimes difficult to come up with your next goal, keeping at it brings great results.

After a few months my password was life is beautiful.

Life is going to change again... Password Changed my Life ... A true story from the Reader’s Digest ...

I was having a great morning until I sat down in front of my office computer. “your password has expired”, a server message flashed on my screen, with instructions for changing it. Coming up with a new code doesn’t seem like a big deal, unless you work at my company, where we have to change it monthly, using at least one uppercase character, one lower case character, one symbol and one number. Oh and the password can’t be fewer than eight characters. And I can’t use any of the same passwords I’ve used in the past three months.

Suddenly I was furious. What didn’t make it any better was that I was deeply depressed after my recent divorce. Disbelief over what she had done to me was what I thought all day.

That didn’t mean anything to the empty field with the pulsating cursor, waiting for me to type a password that I have to re-enter many times – for the next 30 days. I remembered a tip I’d heard from my former boss. He’d said, “I’m going to use a password that is going to change my life”. I couldn’t focus on getting things done in my current mood. There was clear indication that I needed to regain control over my life, but I couldn’t heed them. My password became the indicator. My password reminded me that I shouldn’t let myself be a victim of my recent breakup and that I was strong enough to do something about it.

I made my password – Forgive@her. I had to type this password several times every day, each time my computer would lock. Each time I came back from lunch I wrote forgive her. The simple action changed the way I looked at my ex-wife. That constant reminder of reconciliation led me to accept the way things happened and helped me deal with my depression. As one month wore on, I felt a slow healing began to take place. By the time the server prompted me to change my password following month, I felt free.

The next time I had to change my password I thought about the next thing that I had to get done. My password became Quit@smoking4ever .

It motivated me to follow my goal and I was able to quit smoking.

One month later, my password became Save4trip@europe, and in three months I was able to visit Europe.

Seeing how reminders helped me materialize my goals kept me motivated and excited. While its sometimes difficult to come up with your next goal, keeping at it brings great results.

After a few months my password was life is beautiful.

Life is going to change again... & I follow this even to this day though some passwords are lengthy but they are life changing :)

A reminder to SELF:

A reminder to SELF:

You are more than just a relationship. You are strong and beautiful and capable all by yourself. You do not need a man/ woman to define you. I don't write this as a boy hating "feminist"( the quotes because that word is very very misunderstood and misused) I love men. I think men are wonderful and a very essential part of our lives. But this society places too much of a premium on women being attached to a man for their identity. At first the father and then the boyfriend or the husband. Please please know that no one, and I mean no one, is more important than you on this planet. And no one will ever be able to make you happy if you are not happy with yourself. It doesn't mean that you have to be alone to prove a point. It means you should understand the difference between wanting someone in your life and needing someone in your life. It is better to be single than to be in an unhealthy relationship. Too many women hang on to abusive partners and unhappy relationships because they are so frightened of being alone. Because society judges single women. They are made to feel inadequate and damaged and like there is something wrong with them. Older men are more desirable than older women. Divorced men are more accepted in society than divorced women. Well we are the change. We are just as much the society as anyone else. And none of this will matter if we start to feel differently. Be the change. Being single is not that big a deal. Know that you are not alone. Everyone is afraid. Everyone is afraid of being alone and yet everyone is alone at the end of the day. Know that a broken heart can be mended in time. But a life once gone can never be replaced. We have one life, and it will come with its shares of ups and downs but we owe it to ourselves to make the most of it.  So love yourself ! Surround yourself with people who love you just the same and make you feel special. Because you deserve it. You deserve every bit of love and awesomeness that life has to offer!

Reminder to self too....!!

The one who walked in for me :)

The one who walked in for me :)

Sometimes you know you need a change, but you can't quite put your finger on what exactly is making you unsettled, frustrated or plain down...
Desires can be muddied by concern for others in your life, fear of the consequences or being out of touch with your feelings....then someone comes your way who can guide you through this dark phase while leaving you enlightened....

...And he appeared......

Amazing grace! How sweet the sound
That saved a soul like me!
I once was lost, but now am found;
Was blind, but now I see.

Affirm for Affirmation:

Affirm for Affirmation:

⦁ only takes a few minutes to say an affirmation in the morning or before a big event, and—if designed properly—these words can provide you with a powerful, straightforward way to improve your confidence.

Here are 5 types of affirmations that can increase self-esteem, focusing on some of the key areas that tend to generate insecurity.

Feel free to adapt and amend them to suit your own purposes—using this Law of Attraction technique is all about finding words that really resonate with your intentions!

1. Everyone can see that I’m perfect for this job.”
⦁ “I’m a clear, confident speaker and my words will convince my audience.”
⦁ “I have the skills and talent required to make a difference.”
⦁ “I know I deserve career success, and others will see that too.”

 2. Affirmations That Help You Feel Attractive

If you’re down on the way you look, those low levels of confidence can seep into your every interaction, making you want to hide away. Experiment with affirmations that target the major source of your negative body image, such as one of the following:

⦁ “I am a beautiful person, inside and out.”
⦁ “My body is perfect just the way it is, and I am proud of how I look.”
⦁ “I am a confident, attractive person, and people admire me.”
⦁ “I look great today, and I’m ready to take on the world!”

 3. Affirmations That Combat Fear

In many cases, people turn to the Law of Attraction when they’re ready to make a major change in their lives. However, the idea of transforming your life can be intimidating, sparking low levels of confidence. If you’re feeling fearful, these types of affirmations can help to empower you:

⦁ “I am strong and capable; I can overcome any obstacle.”
⦁ “I am ready for real change, and I welcome it with open arms.”
⦁ “There is nothing to fear; I am moving towards the life I desire and deserve.”
⦁ “I am excited and happy to embrace my future.”

 4. Affirmations That Support Dating Confidence

Even if you’re truly yearning for love and ready to find a wonderful new partner, you may have some old limiting beliefs that have the potential to hold you back. If you know that you have low or variable self-esteem when it comes to your love life, here are some affirmations that can help:

⦁ “I deserve love, and I know I will find it.”
⦁ “I am confident, vibrant, and ready for a great date.”
⦁ “I am ready and willing to receive the love of my life.”
⦁ “I will meet a devoted, loving and beautiful partner when the time is right.”
⦁ “Every date is an adventure, and I will have fun no matter what.”

5. Affirmations That Build Belief In Abundance

As with love, many people don’t really believe that they deserve financial abundance. Perhaps you’ve had low self-esteem all your life and equate wealth with people who are “better” than you, or maybe you’ve been bullied by people who earn more than you do at work. No matter what the cause of your sense that you don’t deserve more money, combatting this deep insecurity can be very effective in attracting what you desire:

⦁ “I am moving closer to a life of true abundance and prosperity every day.”
⦁ “There is enough in the world for everyone, and I’m going to get what I need.”
⦁ “I’m excited and ready to earn the riches I deserve.”
⦁ “I know I can succeed and build a life of abundance.”

In addition to practicing affirmations, remember that you can support your self-esteem with many other techniques from your Law of Attraction toolkit. For example, daily visualizations of success can do a lot to help you believe that you can have the things you desire, and creating a dream board can give you a constant visual reminder of what you’re working to achieve.

Even a simple exercise like making a list of ten things you like about who you re can help to connect you with the part of yourself that knows you deserve the very best in life.

The Laws of Attraction:

When you begin reading and thinking about the Law of Attraction, one of the first things that you discover is that positivity of is paramount importance. As you work to attract the thing you want—whether it’s love, abundance, career advancement or health—you need to vibrate on a positive frequency if you’re going to succeed.

There are plenty of tools you can use to enhance your personal positivity, from keeping a daily gratitude journal to creating a dream board that displays images connected to joy and well-being.

However, the truth is that it isn’t just your own positivity that matters—the vibration of others around you can also influence your likelihood of manifesting the life you desire. When you’re surrounded by positive people, your self-esteem grows and you’re in a constant feedback loop of excitement, inspiration and energy.

If, on the other hand, you have negative people around you, then they can sap your positivity and make you vibrate on a lower frequency.

So, how do you ensure that you have as many positive people around you as possible? Here are five tips for attracting them into your life.


1. Use Visualization


You’ll already be familiar with the process of using creative visualization to build detailed, lifelike images of the things you want to attract. However, once you’ve honed your visualization skills, you can also use them to do other exercises.

One technique that can help you to attract positive people involves visualizing these people coming towards you. After you’ve focused on slow, steady breathing for a few minutes, allow your mind to generate an image that represents your ability to pull other positive people towards you.

For example, you might feel a shimmering outline of an unspecific person holding their arms out towards you, and feel the love and support that resonates from this person. Alternatively, you might imagine yourself glowing with a golden light that magnetically attracts good people.

There’s no rule about what you need to visualize, as long as you feel it represents happy, nurturing individuals coming into your life. Try to repeat this visualization at least once a day.


2. Target Your Own Negativity


As the Law of Attraction states, we tend to attract more of the things that we “give out” to the universe. So, if you’re sending out negativity then it will be so much harder to attract positive people.

This negativity doesn’t have to be malicious—for example, even if you are an accepting a friendly person, if you believe that you don’t deserve positive people in your life then you’re less likely to receive them.

Ask yourself whether you have any negative beliefs or assumptions about friendships and relationships, and work to counter those in order to draw more positive people towards you. The manifestation addendum of my recent book “Origins” is a great place to start to find exercises that help you rewrite outdated, limiting beliefs.


3. Be Honest


Sometimes, we are tempted to hold onto old friendships and relationships that are no longer working for us and only drag us down. To maximize your chances of meeting positive people and making solid connections, practice regular self-reflection about your social circle.

Is anyone dragging you down? Is there someone who always criticizes you, or even laughs at you? It’s time to consider cutting ties with these sorts of people to make space for ones who will empower you and help you to reach your full potential.


4. Give Love Every Day


You can attract more positive people towards you if you’re constantly radiating positivity—even to strangers. Make a habit of giving love every day, and you’ll see it begin to come back to you.

You don’t have to make grand gestures—even just complimenting someone on their gorgeous outfit, lending an ear to a troubled colleague for 20 minutes or giving an hour of your time to volunteer work each week can make a big difference. As a bonus, these types of activities may trigger wonderful new friendships!


5. Practice Affirmations Before Socializing


Finally, you can help to get yourself into the right headspace for making positive connections by giving yourself a bit of a pep talk before you socialize. Whether you’re going to spending time getting to know people at work, going to a party or attending a dinner, try to find affirmations that make you feel open and happy about the possibility of getting to know people.

Focus on your most positive qualities and the things that you know other people appreciate about you, and reaffirm your belief in these aspects of yourself. For example, you might say “I feel and trust the positive energy inside me” or “I have the power to attract positive people who will enrich my life.”

Depression:

Being in depression And when they kill themselves they find themselves in a bigger soup. They feel, 'Oh my God, this restlessness, these desires which had created such intense agony inside me has not gone. My body has gone but the agony has remained. It is only through the body that you can dispel the agony and get rid of misery. Instead you destroy the very instrument by which you can get rid of agony. When energy goes down you get depressed and when it goes further down suicidal tendencies arise. When the prana is high, this thought will not come. You will not be violent to yourself or others when your prana is high. Through proper breathing exercises, some meditation and through good and loving company energy can go up. Anyone with suicidal tendencies should be led to someone who can teach them meditation, who can make them do some breathing exercises and raise their energy level. Every day, for ten minutes meditate and become hollow and empty. We need to create a society free from stress and violence, and the way for it is through meditation. Many times when we sit for meditation, the mind goes all over the place. That is where Sudarshan Kriya, which is a breathing technique, and yoga, both of these help the mind to calm down and become serene. Personal development is very important for everyone. See life from a broader perspective. 80 years of life we are living, is it worth being stressed, unhappy? In this short span of life, we should spend our time being happy and making others happy. If You Get Thoughts Of Committing Suicide: 1. Know that it is just your prana which is low, so do more pranayama 2. There are millions of people who are suffering more than you, look at them. When your suffering becomes smaller you will not think of committing suicide. 3. Know that you are needed, you are useful. You have to do something in the world. 4. Forget about what people think of you: People commit suicide because they think they have lost their prestige, their status. What status? What prestige? Who has time to think about your prestige? Everybody is entangled with their own problems, with their own mind. They can't step out of their own mind, where do they have the time to think about you? It is worthless to worry about what the society thinks of you. Life is much more than just a few material possessions. Life is much more than blame or appreciation from someone. Life is much more than a relationship or a job. The reason for suicide is failure in relationship, failure in job and not being able to achieve what you want to achieve. Life is much more than the small desires that pop up in your consciousness, in your mind. See life from a bigger perspective and engage yourself in some sort of social activity; service activity. Service or seva can keep people sane and keep them out of this mental depression. Mental depression is worse than an economic recession. One has to take responsibility to sail over this and help others around them. Taking every crisis as a challenge, as an opportunity is what we need to promote in the world.

SMILE

A curve that makes everything straight! You have guessed it right – SMILE

 How do we remember smiles? Hmm… let’s take a glance at our lives. When and where did we smile? A bit of flash back is required.

 Your parents holding you and trying to make you sleep and that sudden beaming smile! Hearts melt and there they go admiring you for the rest of the day.  Now let’s come to the year you might remember seeing few things that you like. Your favourite toy or favourite people around you. We would end up smiling or laughing even someone tore a paper in front of you! Ah! Such innocent days they were!

 Later we grow up to cry most of the times confused between haves and wants! Once we decide on that, our tastes would have changed. Oh! That teenage where half of it is spent in giggling and the rest is spent on thinking what to do next in life! Thanks to peer pressure and parental pressure!

 Oops did I forget to mention about the first ever crush we had! Now am sure most of you would be smiling and thinking about it! See that brings a smile; attached with some good and not so good memories! All that now might look so silly and childish!

 The results that we achieved, the best friends we had, the best of the times we spent, the bunking of the classes, trying to get that attention from few people! Oh! How thrilling that was! I am sure there is a gush of emotions running through us now. Wait it is not over yet!

 The confident smile comes from the achievements. Well, academically! Those never ending job interviews, presentations, and interactions so many things that would have gone behind all that hard work. If you sit and think now, I feel it was all worth it.

 Now let’s be a little serious. Finding your life partner! Hey! I am not telling it’s a bad decision to get married (ha!ha!ha!) but I am asking you all to relive those emotions and the smiles behind the beautiful courtship days. Ticklish isn’t it?

 Of all these smiles do you know we have forgotten one smile that is very important? Any guesses? I know some of you have smiled and some of you choose not to smile. Smiling during hardships! Of course, Yes. We all smile during the happy days and would love to relive those moments time and again. But never want to muster the courage to SMILE during hardship. I urge and challenge you all to do that.

 It’s one of the best acts of courage. For those who do not understand the beauty of it - Try it. It’s the best jewel one can ever wear.

Decisions or changes in your life

Do you find it difficult to make decisions or changes in your life, without seeking reassurance from the opinions of those around you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone.

As a society, we have become far too pre-occupied with what others may think of us. Arguably, our constant need for approval and a want to ‘fit-in’ is a big part of what makes us human. After all, it is this need to ‘fit-in’ that has helped us to survive and evolve as a species. However, when do we know when to draw the line and live for own happiness rather than for the happiness of others? When is it time to say that enough is enough?

Too often we allow our fear of what others think of us to dominate our lives; preventing us from fulfilling our ambitions, speaking our true minds or from even revealing our authentic selves. We allow the opinions of others; namely, our friends, families, work colleagues or even total strangers to change the direction of our lives. Some of these people may be a big part of your life and care for you deeply, but ask yourself – do any of them know you better than you know yourself?

Having the support of people around you that appreciate and love you for who you are and what you can do, can be an incredible feeling. However, having the support of others in all of your opinions and choices is in no way essential to your  happiness. You do not need anyone’s approval or validation – you are good enough just as you are.

When the time comes for making positive change in your life, remember this; it is your happiness and your life that you are taking charge of. Therefore, it is only your opinion that is of any importance.

Why Your Opinion Is The Most Important One Of All

1. No one knows you better than you.

When we try to make positive change in our lives, it is often the people who care about us the most that are the problem. From your family to your friends, there will be many people who falsely claim to know you better than you know yourself

Sometimes, agreeing with the people that we care about at the cost of our own opinions can seem like the easy way out. However, if you do this you are only setting yourself up for future miser

 Your Opinion Is The Only One That could do  you find it difficult to make decisions or changes in your life, without seeking reassurance from the opinions of those around you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone.

As a society, we have become far too pre-occupied with what others may think of us. Arguably, our constant need for approval and a want to ‘fit-in’ is a big part of what makes us human. After all, it is this need to ‘fit-in’ that has helped us to survive and evolve as a species. However, when do we know when to draw the line and live for own happiness rather than for the happiness of others? When is it time to say that enough is enough?

Too often we allow our fear of what others think of us to dominate our lives; preventing us from fulfilling our ambitions, speaking our true minds or from even revealing our authentic selves. We allow the opinions of others; namely, our friends, families, work colleagues or even total strangers to change the direction of our lives. Some of these people may be a big part of your life and care for you deeply, but ask yourself – do any of them know you better than you know yourself?

Having the support of people around you that appreciate and love you for who you are and what you can do, can be an incredible feeling. However, having the support of others in all of your opinions and choices is in no way essential to your  happiness. You do not need anyone’s approval or validation – you are good enough just as you are.

When the time comes for making positive change in your life, remember this; it is your happiness and your life that you are taking charge of. Therefore, it is only your opinion that is of any importance.

Why Your Opinion Is The Most Important One Of All

1. No one knows you better than you.

When we try to make positive change in our lives, it is often the people who care about us the most that are the problem. From your family to your friends, there will be many people who falsely claim to know you better than you know yourself

Sometimes, agreeing with the people that we care about at the cost of our own opinions can seem like the easy way out. However, if you do this you are only setting yourself up for future misery.

If these people really ‘got you’ they would understand that you, not they, know what is best for your life. So, if you find that the people you love cannot be strong enough to let you stand alone and make your own decision, then you have to be strong enough for the both of you and take the initiative. Gracefully dismiss their opinions – they are of no importance to you or what you hope to achieve – and follow your own intuition. Have faith in your opinions and actions. You know what is best for you, just follow your gut.

2. Others will judge you based on their own insecurities.

When other people judge us or try to inflict their opinions on us, these are usually reflection of their own insecurities.

Many people are often reluctant to move out of their comfort zone, so when they see someone else do it they can find it uncomfortable as they are forced to stop and take stock of their own lives. A recognizable example of this happening on a small scale could be this; you go out for dinner with friends and they torment you for selecting the sensible option, teasingly inviting you to share some chips with them. This is a trivial example, but it shows how difficult others can find it to support our decisions for change in even the smallest areas of our lives.

So, be wary of opinions that come from a place of fear – they do not have your best interests at heart and should be ignored.

3. Your life, your rules.

It is important to be considerate and understanding of other people’s opinions; but no more so than to your own! It is your life and happiness which is at stake, nobody else’s.

The people around you may judge and resist your opinions and choices, but in the end, each person is responsible for taking care of their own happiness and well being. Make sure you take responsibility for yours.

When it comes to making decisions or making changes in your life, listen to gut instinct. It is your life and your happiness that is hanging in the balance, so the only opinion you should be listening to is yours.

Align your actions with your authentic self. Begin to live your life your way. The after-effects can amaze you.

- Kruthi